If you’ve been reading this blog for the past two days you’re aware that this is the third day of a four-day series titled, Questions Every Groups Pastor Should Ask Before Changing Churches. I introduced this series of blog posts with these statements, “Many groups pastors/point people have moved to a new church, regretted it, and has then moved on within a few years of their arrival. In the process, they’ve uprooted their family twice in a short period of time, put their family in financial and emotional distress, and, in some instances, due to their own misguided evaluation of what took place, have become disenchanted with Jesus’ bride, the church.
Had the groups pastor/point person asked just four questions prior to accepting he position, they might have dodged the, “I’m not happy in my new church.” bullet.
The first question every groups point person should ask before changing churches is, “Am I being called here to serve this church or to do groups ministry?”. The second question, the question that was brought up in yesterday’s post was, “Do I determine the group system we’ll use or is that determined by other leaders in the church?”.
The third important question to ask before changing churches is, “What are the specific goals you have of the groups point person you’re hiring?”. This is an essential question because the expectation may or may not be possible. It may not be possible because the expectation may not jive with the system the church leadership expects you to use.
For instance, if you’re being asked to make spiritual parents, that is, mature disciples who make disciples, you’ll need to expect those in your groups to memorize Scripture weekly, read the Bible daily, share a verbal witness with others consistently, etc… and all of these will be expectations with high accountability. If this is what’s expected of you, you’ll never be able to have high percentages of weekend worshipers involved in group life. The principle that has been overlooked is, “The higher the expectation the lower the number of people willing to get involved in group life.”
So… If the church leadership says, “We want you to get 90% of adult weekend worshipers involved in a group,” but they also want you to take each person in every group from spiritual babe to spiritual child to spiritual young adult to spiritual parent, that is, make mature disciples who make disciples, you’re being asked to accomplish an impossible task.
Clarifying the answer to today’s question is not only important, it’s essential.