8 Things I Wish the Gay Community Knew About Spiritually Mature Christians


As I start this blog post, I need to differentiate between spiritually immature Christians and spiritually mature Christians. Those who are spiritually immature are spiritual babies. Just as children often do or say things that an adult wouldn’t do, spiritually immature Christians often say or do things that spiritually mature Christians would never say or do. As a Christian grows up spiritually they think, talk, and act more and more like Jesus. That is, they become spiritually mature Christians.

As you read this blog, please keep the paragraph you just read in mind. Why is this important? Because, in too many instances spiritually immature Christians have made grave mistakes when it comes to the treatment of those who have a different view of life than they do or live a different kind of lifestyle than they live.

Now, the eight things I wish the gay community knew about spiritually mature Christians…

  1. Spiritually mature Christians love gay people. Because spiritually mature Christians have grown to be more and more like Jesus, they love like Jesus loves and His love is deep for all people.
  1. Spiritually mature Christians cringe when anyone shames gay people, especially when they use terms that are degrading and demeaning. We all know that there have been tweets, blog posts, rallies, even spiritually immature pastors who have used terms too disgraceful to post here when describing the gay community or individuals who are gay. Please know that no spiritually mature person would use such terminologies to describe any person or people group.
  1. Spiritually mature Christians don’t have the option of determining what truth is. A term that is used often today is, “my truth.” When someone uses this phrase they then go on to tell someone or a group of people what they believe is the bottom line on an issue, their bottom line. Mature believers know that there is only one truth, what God says. Because God is the only One who is all knowing, what He unearths through the Bible is the only truth. Any idea that contradicts His ideal is a contradiction of real truth. I share this so that those reading this blog can understand why mature Christians hold so firmly to their beliefs, even when doing so makes them look out of sync with the times or irrelevant. I’ve had multiple conversations with a particular individual, someone I really like. She has asked me many questions and I’ve always answered by telling her what God says in the Bible. At one point, she demanded that I tell her my opinion. The only response I could honestly give was that my opinion didn’t matter because, even if I had a differing opinion than God, it would be a wrong.
  1. Spiritually mature Christians serve God, not themselves. If spiritually mature Christians served themselves they would cave to the accepted norms of the majority on many issues. After all, who wants to be perceived as old fashioned, judgmental, or intolerant. No one does. But, mature Christians serve God and hold firmly to His teachings so, even if we are misdiagnosed as old fashioned, judgmental, or intolerant, we will hold to the teachings and expectations of the One we serve, Jesus Christ.
  1. Spiritually mature Christians know there is only one Judge and they are not He. Many spiritual babes have made it their place to judge those who are sinning. Spiritually mature Christians realize that the ultimate judge is God and that the role of Christians when it comes to those who are not following Christ with every aspect of their lives is to love them and, if given the opportunity journey with them toward a closer relationship with Jesus.
  1. Spiritually mature Christians know what sin is, because they too are sinners, and long for everyone to be set free from it. Because God determines what truth is (which includes determining what is sinful) and because spiritually mature Christians serve God and because God will someday judge all of us, spiritually mature Christians cannot ignore sin. God determined that many things are sinful acts. A few of those are gluttony, gossiping, using God’s name improperly, sexual acts between people who aren’t married to one another or who are of the same gender. These are sins that many Christians struggle with. But the role of a mature Christian isn’t to judge the sinner, it’s to make sinners aware of the freedom God offers from sin.
  1. Spiritually mature Christians know that there is only one God and that the only way to know Him personally is through Jesus Christ. Because spiritually mature Christians have experienced the transformation that takes place when someone chooses to become a disciple of Jesus through believing and acknowledging that Jesus is the Son of God, that He died on the cross for them and rose again, and being willing to do their best to walk away from whatever sins they are involved in, spiritually mature Christians embrace wholeheartedly that Jesus is the pathway to knowing God personally.
  1. Spiritually mature Christians are not proselytizers, they are ambassadors. Oftentimes spiritually mature Christians, because they are telling others about Jesus and offering people the opportunity to start a relationship with Him, are considered to be proselytizers. Nothing could be further from the truth. Spiritually mature Christians are simply ambassadors for Jesus as they represent Him to the people they come in contact with and proclaim the message He has given them to declare, that, “to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.” (John 1:12)

If you were gracious enough to read this blog post, thank you. I do realize that this post isn’t necessarily politically correct. My goal was to make Christians aware of their responsibility to those who are gay and to aid those who are gay in understanding the inescapable mindsets of mature Christians and why those outlooks are so deep seated.



  1. Reblogged this on Missourabama and commented:
    As a Christian who dearly loves many people who identify as gay, trans or bi, I found this to be an important read. The only thing I would contribute to this article is acknowledgement that there are people who identify with both the Christian and gay communities. The only job Christ calls me to is to love Him and to love others. I am not called to judge, speculate, hurt or demean anyone who may not have a relationship with God, or lead a lifestyle differently than I do. I am called to LOVE them, to understand their pain, to stand with them, hold their hand and show them the love Christ shows me each and every day. Loving God means you love others. If you don’t love others, you can’t truly love God.

  2. Rick what a GREAT article. Really hit the nail on the head. Love you. I have kept my promise. Remember?

  3. You write that “spiritually mature Christians don’t have the option of determining what truth is.” Based on the rest of your blog, one of these truths is that sexual acts between people of the same gender is a sin. Yet, I know many Christians — entire denominations, really — who read a different message in the Bible and disagree with you on this. So, whose truth is true?

  4. Thanks Rick for sharing such a concise, refreshing, and convicting word for those of us as believers who are striving to mature in our faith each and every day.

  5. Thank you for writing this, Rick. You took my scrambled thoughts and made sense of them in such a generous way. It actually gives me peace.

  6. Excellent post Rick. Thank You for your thoughts. It’s a great reminder of who I need to be in Christ and what He has called me to as a follower of him. Not settling for the immature life, but the mature.

  7. I really enjoyed reading this! I feel the same way, but have not been able to express my thoughts so well. Most of my friends disagree with me. Thanks for saying what I wanted to say.

  8. Rick, Thank you for this timely blog. I have enjoyed reading it and it has helped with my concerns of recent issues of discrimination of the LBGT community in Indiana. I realize my concern was not about their (sin or perceived sin) but that they are humans… people who need to be loved and treated with respect. Your comments reflect that too… who are we to judge but we are commanded to Love one another as He loved us. I miss seeing you, chatting with you and that smile of yours that can make any upset ease. Its been a while since college years but your friendship remains very fresh and real! Love you Rick… Russe Lindsey

  9. #9, which trumps the rest: Spiritually mature Christians don’t assume that there are no Christians in the gay community.

  10. This blog came was very timely in my life. This week I have really been grieving at the hate, anger, judgment, condemnation going on in our world between anyone and everyone. Oh, that I could live out these 8 points 24/7 everywhere and with everything and everyone

  11. Rick, your blog is the best I have read about the Gay Community and spiritually Mature Christians. You were above board about your honesty and being truthful about it all! This article needed tobe written and you did a great job! Thanks for the effort that you took in writing this! GOD bless you!

  12. Well said, and thank you. My job is to follow Jesus and love those He’s brought around me.

  13. Thank you for the reference to the DeYoung article. I agree with his assessment and it’s good to have some arguments like his at hand to counter the distortions many others have embraced.

  14. *Snort* “Distortions.” If you are getting your views on sex and the Bible from The Gospel Coalition you are getting nothing but distortions. In addition to the repeatedly using the anachronistic term “homosexuality” to in reference to biblical texts, we get “gems” like this:

    “For Paul, the biological complementarity of the male-female union is the obvious order of things. A male-male or female-female sexual pairing violates the anatomical and procreative design inherent in the one flesh union of a man and a woman. That Jewish writers of the period used comparable expressions to describe same-sex intercourse only confirms that this is what Paul meant by the construction.”

    Um, no. I don’t care what your view of biblical authority is, this is a misrepresentation, a “distortion” even, of what Paul thinks about sex and gender. The second sentence creates the false impression that Paul held a “positive” view of sex and procreation, a norm against which all sexual activity should be measured. Yet nowhere does Paul say a positive thing about marriage, much less about having children. In fact he clearly thinks people are better off not marrying or having sex at all (see 1 Cor 7). Paul does not share the “family values” of conservative American Christians.

    Likewise, the first and third sentences create the false impression that Paul has Gen 1-3 in mind in Rom 1 and that other Jewish writers thought of same-sex sex in terms of Gen 1-3, too. Philo and Josephus do in some places, but neither provides a clear parallel for Paul’s reasoning. You need the Wisdom of Solomon for that and the relevant passages from that piece of Hellenized Jewish wisdom literature view *Gentile* same-sex sex in terms of *Gentile* idolatry, not “biological complementarity.”

    Yes, for Paul same-sex sex violates an “order of things” that was “natural” and hence “obvious” to him and to many Greco-Roman moralists, but that gender order was a construction of Greco-Roman cultural norms. Or rather, a construction of a rather small group of elite, educated, and socially conservative male writers, many deeply influenced by Stoic philosophy (not Genesis). We are no more beholden to Paul’s views of “natural” gender and sex than we are to his views of “natural” hairstyles and clothing (see 1 Cor. 11:13-15).

    We could go on to the rest of the essay, yet this one example is enough to show that the essay is willing to distort biblical texts to fit a predetermined conclusion.

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