As I start this blog post, I need to differentiate between spiritually immature Christians and spiritually mature Christians. Those who are spiritually immature are spiritual babies. Just as children often do or say things that an adult wouldn’t do, spiritually immature Christians often say or do things that spiritually mature Christians would never say or do. As a Christian grows up spiritually they think, talk, and act more and more like Jesus. That is, they become spiritually mature Christians.
As you read this blog, please keep the paragraph you just read in mind. Why is this important? Because, in too many instances spiritually immature Christians have made grave mistakes when it comes to the treatment of those who have a different view of life than they do or live a different kind of lifestyle than they live.
Now, the eight things I wish the gay community knew about spiritually mature Christians…
- Spiritually mature Christians love gay people. Because spiritually mature Christians have grown to be more and more like Jesus, they love like Jesus loves and His love is deep for all people.
- Spiritually mature Christians cringe when anyone shames gay people, especially when they use terms that are degrading and demeaning. We all know that there have been tweets, blog posts, rallies, even spiritually immature pastors who have used terms too disgraceful to post here when describing the gay community or individuals who are gay. Please know that no spiritually mature person would use such terminologies to describe any person or people group.
- Spiritually mature Christians don’t have the option of determining what truth is. A term that is used often today is, “my truth.” When someone uses this phrase they then go on to tell someone or a group of people what they believe is the bottom line on an issue, their bottom line. Mature believers know that there is only one truth, what God says. Because God is the only One who is all knowing, what He unearths through the Bible is the only truth. Any idea that contradicts His ideal is a contradiction of real truth. I share this so that those reading this blog can understand why mature Christians hold so firmly to their beliefs, even when doing so makes them look out of sync with the times or irrelevant. I’ve had multiple conversations with a particular individual, someone I really like. She has asked me many questions and I’ve always answered by telling her what God says in the Bible. At one point, she demanded that I tell her my opinion. The only response I could honestly give was that my opinion didn’t matter because, even if I had a differing opinion than God, it would be a wrong.
- Spiritually mature Christians serve God, not themselves. If spiritually mature Christians served themselves they would cave to the accepted norms of the majority on many issues. After all, who wants to be perceived as old fashioned, judgmental, or intolerant. No one does. But, mature Christians serve God and hold firmly to His teachings so, even if we are misdiagnosed as old fashioned, judgmental, or intolerant, we will hold to the teachings and expectations of the One we serve, Jesus Christ.
- Spiritually mature Christians know there is only one Judge and they are not He. Many spiritual babes have made it their place to judge those who are sinning. Spiritually mature Christians realize that the ultimate judge is God and that the role of Christians when it comes to those who are not following Christ with every aspect of their lives is to love them and, if given the opportunity journey with them toward a closer relationship with Jesus.
- Spiritually mature Christians know what sin is, because they too are sinners, and long for everyone to be set free from it. Because God determines what truth is (which includes determining what is sinful) and because spiritually mature Christians serve God and because God will someday judge all of us, spiritually mature Christians cannot ignore sin. God determined that many things are sinful acts. A few of those are gluttony, gossiping, using God’s name improperly, sexual acts between people who aren’t married to one another or who are of the same gender. These are sins that many Christians struggle with. But the role of a mature Christian isn’t to judge the sinner, it’s to make sinners aware of the freedom God offers from sin.
- Spiritually mature Christians know that there is only one God and that the only way to know Him personally is through Jesus Christ. Because spiritually mature Christians have experienced the transformation that takes place when someone chooses to become a disciple of Jesus through believing and acknowledging that Jesus is the Son of God, that He died on the cross for them and rose again, and being willing to do their best to walk away from whatever sins they are involved in, spiritually mature Christians embrace wholeheartedly that Jesus is the pathway to knowing God personally.
- Spiritually mature Christians are not proselytizers, they are ambassadors. Oftentimes spiritually mature Christians, because they are telling others about Jesus and offering people the opportunity to start a relationship with Him, are considered to be proselytizers. Nothing could be further from the truth. Spiritually mature Christians are simply ambassadors for Jesus as they represent Him to the people they come in contact with and proclaim the message He has given them to declare, that, “to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.” (John 1:12)
If you were gracious enough to read this blog post, thank you. I do realize that this post isn’t necessarily politically correct. My goal was to make Christians aware of their responsibility to those who are gay and to aid those who are gay in understanding the inescapable mindsets of mature Christians and why those outlooks are so deep seated.